The Art Of Public Speaking

The Art Of Public Speaking

Public speaking is an art, be it on the stage or delivering a speech or presenting a Seminar to a small or big audience. The speaker should bear few points on mind.

1.Audience: Do not use flowery language nor very simple language. Feel the pulse of the audience and then deliver the speech. Let the speech not be bouncer to the audience.

2.Voice: Voice plays a vital role in presentation. The audience are smart enough to find out if the speaker is confident or not. So let the audience not know even if you are nervous.

3.Poise and Posture: Dressing style always reflects what the speaker\'s personality. Be poised in appearance; no over makeup or too decorative with heavy jewellery or not very informal style but be simple but elegant. Let the posture not be with bent shoulders but with head held high and stomach tucked in and chest out. Never stand in a tand at ease position nor your hands in the pockets, never move to and fro or side ways as a pendulum. If there is a rostrum in front of you then don\'t lean on it nor rock with it.

4.Language: Let the language be with good vocabulary and interesting points. Never use high vocab which doesn't suit the scenario. Do not ask any questions to the audience and in case you ask do not wait for answers.

5.Humour:There is nothing wrong in using humour and making the audience have a lighter moment. This has to be used only if you are comfortable and can make it sound humorous otherwise the humour goes for a toss and you will start regretting for using it and the confidence level just goes down which would be difficult to bring it up again in the next few seconds. So don't experiment.

6.Eye contact: Do not look away form the audience nor look piercing into the eyes of the audience. Let the eyes travel from one end of the room to the other end.Do not look at the roof, outside the window nor at any one person. This shows that you are avoiding the rest of the audience which might distract the others.

7.Time: Maintaining of the time is very important and never drag the topic nor repeat the points. If any point is forgotten never bring it back just forget it once for all.

8.Conclusion: The audience should know that the speaker is about to conclude his/her speech. This can be done through the words like ...

In conclusion I would like to say or Lastly I would like to say or the bottom line is etc... You can end the speech with a joke, quotation, proverb or a poem suitable to the topic. A presentation can be made effective with the tips given above.

At the end of the seminar or presentation if the audience shoots any questions then be patient in answering the questions and don't give rude answers nor ridicule them with your sharp answers. If the do's and don'ts are followed then there is no turning back from a successful public speech.

JUst chill.....
agarbandhu

Tips for personal grooming

Tips for personal grooming
Personal grooming includes taking care of the items you wear.

One does not feel good wearing dull shoes, or jewellery that does not shine. Grooming involves ensuring we look our best by all means, including the accessories we wear.
We all have used cosmetics, skin care products, imitation jewellery, fake watches, accessories, and leather shoes and purses at some point in life. Most of these personal care items need to be taken care of; otherwise, our sense of grooming would be adversely affected; especially if they cause reactions in the skin. For example, cosmetics if not maintained properly could lead to skin infections and allergies. Let us look at some accessories and the role their care plays in personal grooming.
Leather shoes and bags
• To maintain leather goods for longer, oil and polish your leather shoes regularly. Leather dries and it can crack if it becomes too dry. Use a quality saddle soap or beeswax to oil the shoes and then apply a polish to clean them, making them shine.
• Store leather shoes away from heat, even if they get wet. Stuff tissue paper or an absorbent cloth inside the wet shoes and allow them a few days to dry. Putting them near a heat source to dry causes the leather to dry too much, and it may crack.
• Slip your foot into the shoes using a shoe horn. This keeps the back of the shoe from becoming worn and damaged over time. Most leather is soft and supple and gets pressed down when the shoe is slipped on. A shoe horn makes the leather stand up.
Jewellery
• Fine jewellery requires care even though it is made from some of the most durable substances on earth. Lotions, powders, soaps and natural skin oils can cause deposits that dull the surface of a diamond or gem stone.
• Regular cleaning to remove such deposits from ordinary wear will help ensure your diamond or gem remains sparkling. One of the safest methods to clean jewellery at home is with a soft toothbrush and warm, soapy water.
• Care must be taken to not scratch the jewellery when cleaning. Then, rinse thoroughly and dry with a soft cloth.
• In case of imitation jewellery, avoid contact with water and perfume. As soon as you remove them, wipe them with dry cotton and keep then in airtight zip-lock bags.
Cosmetics
• Remember, all cosmetics come with an expiry date even if it is not mentioned on the product. Replace all cosmetics within six months. By the end of 6-7 months, whatever is left in a container may have become contaminated by contact with your hand or an applicator. Even the presence of air each time you open the container to apply make-up each day can lead to gradual build-up of bacteria, which can cause skin infections and inflammation.
• Apply make-up with clean hands and supplies. Don't forget to wash your hands before applying or removing make-up. Use a clean washcloth, and use a make-up remover or cold milk, taking care around the eyes and nose. Wipe off spills or drips from the sides of make-up bottles or tubes. Clean out the drawer or tray where cosmetics are kept to eliminate dust, debris, hair, and other residue that can contaminate make-up products.
• Always remove cosmetics at the end of the day. Don't sleep with cosmetics on your face. They can smear your pillow and may lead to irritation of skin, as well as become more resistant to removal the following day. Gently wipe away all vestiges of cream, powder, liner and rouge to leave your face clean and fresh.
• Tighten all product lids and completely close containers to preserve contents. Do not leave the lids here and there. Lipsticks should not be left lying open. Close, fasten or secure each item, from mascara to lip-gloss. While opening, if a product falls on the floor and is contaminated, discard it to prevent dirt from entering your pores or other facial structures like your eyelashes.
• Don't share your cosmetics with others. While it's tempting to borrow from a friend while at work or to lend to a sister at home, sharing cosmetics can increase the risk of contamination and contribute to bacterial build-up. Instead, carry an extra with you, in case one is dropped or dirty, or if someone asks to borrow it.
• It is recommended that all cosmetic tools such as brushes and applicators be cleaned every three months or more often. There are professional cleaners in the market, but for sensitive skin, these can cause irritation. Instead of using those, use your daily cleanser to clean your cosmetic tool. To clean hard cosmetic tools such as eyelash curlers, use a clean washcloth. Get it wet with warm water and then apply a tiny amount of your daily cleanser to the cloth. Lather into the cloth. Then take the washcloth and gently wipe or scrub the cosmetic tools. Once you have cleaned the cosmetic tools, rinse them in warm water and dry with a clean towel or let them air dry.
In order to clean your cosmetic brushes, you can use a washcloth or you can just use your fingers. If you use your fingers, then start by getting your cosmetic brushes wet in warm water. Once you have done this, you can add a tiny amount of cleanser to the bristles. Gently lather the bristles through your fingers, allowing the cleanser to permeate through all the bristles. After you have done this, you can rinse the brush out in warm water. After rinsing, reshape your brushes and allow them to air dry completely before using them again. If your bristles frizz or shed, then it is time to get a new cosmetic brush.
• With the development of cosmetics research, adverse skin reactions induced by cosmetics allergy has attracted more and more attention. It would be better to take precautions to avoid getting cosmetics allergy. Remember, cosmetic allergy, just like any other allergy, is only treatable, not curable. There are some tips that can help you prevent contracting cosmetics allergy. Before using any cosmetic products, read its labels. Look out for active ingredients that can obviously trigger an allergic reaction to your skin. Find products or alternatives that do not contain such ingredients. Perform mini-patch tests to determine if a new cosmetic product is too strong for your skin. It is done by rubbing your wrist with the products and observing for any redness or rash within 24 hours. When wearing perfume, apply it on your clothes, not on your skin.
Creams and ointments specifically manufactured to treat cosmetics allergy are available without prescriptions through retailers and drug stores. Most of these medications contain cortisone in the form of hydrocortisone acetate and hydrocortisone. Cortisones help curtail redness, swelling and itching during the onset of cosmetics allergy symptoms. However, it is advisable to go for these medications on the advice of a medical practitioner only.

Have a good Day.....................just chill
agarbandhu

Personality Developmant

Personality Developmant

“You weren’t an accident. You weren’t mass produced. You aren’t assembly line product. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned on the Earth by the Master Craftsman”. Max Lucado

If you believe in what Max Lucado has said then you do not have any reason to compare yourself with any one in this world. If you compare, you are insulting yourself. Believing in yourself is a choice, it is an attitude you develop over time. Al-though it helps if you have positive and supportive parents, the fact is that most us had run-of –the-mill parents who inadvertently passed on to us the same limiting beliefs and negative conditioning they grew up with. But remember, the past is the past. There is no gain in blaming them for your current level of self-confidence or for that matter your current personality. It is now your responsibility to take charge of your life, your own self-concept, beliefs and develop your own personality to take your life in the direction you want to take it. After my immense experience in Armed Forces I am writing about certain realities of life which will help you in moulding your personality- choice is yours to take it or leave it.

Every successful person has a painful story and every painful story has a successful ending. Accept the pain and get ready for success. People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Remember nothing comes easy in life but like seasons difficult times are not permanent. Life laughs at you when you are unhappy, life smiles at you when you are happy and life salutes you when you make others happy. Take every pain as a learning lamp post in the journey of happiness.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others, but difficult is to recognize our own mistakes. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.

If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying? Firstly do not take anything in life as problems rather view it as a puzzle and your complete outlook towards it will change. We tend to find temporary solutions to the problems and invariably tend to blame someone for their occurrence whereas puzzles engage us in a positive manner. As no one will manufacture a lock without a key, similarly God won't give problems without solutions but we have to have the urge to look for solutions.

Life is full of opportunity but we do not train ourselves to look for them in the right place and time. If you miss an opportunity don't fill your eyes with tears, as it will hide another better opportunity in front of you. Have an insatiable appetite to learn and upgrade your knowledge to be able to seize ever emerging opportunities or to create opportunities.

"Changing the Face" can change nothing. But "Facing the Change" can change everything. Don't complain about others; Change yourself if you want peace.
Change is inevitable accept it, its painful in the beginning only. Everyone has the capacity and responsibility to learn and grow from every one of the obstacles, inducements, incitements, provocations and stimuli that life sends us. When you change yourself, you change the world around you. Positive CHANGE is ‘Creating Hope and Awareness to Nourish Growth and Energy’. Everything is difficult before it becomes easy, that is how the life evolves. No one can go back and change a bad beginning; but anyone can start now and create a successful ending.

Mistakes are painful when they happen. But year's later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success. Do not take each mistake as a life and death situation rather celebrate it, because you have learnt something valuable out of it.

Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win. Heated gold becomes ornament, beaten copper becomes wires, depleted stone becomes statue, so the more pain you get in life you become more valuable and You develop a unique personality with its own aura thus making you a humble leader and a loyal follower.

Written By : Col. Vijay Batra

Just Chill................anil

एक कला है तारीफ करना

एक कला है तारीफ करना
anil aggarwal

कहते हैं कि निंदक नियरे राखिए, आंगन कुटी छवाय.. यानी जो आपकी निंदा करता हो, तो उससे बचना नहीं, बल्कि उसे अपने निकट रखना चाहिए। दरअसल, जब कोई आपकी आलोचना करता है, तो इसका मतलब है कि आपके किसी कार्य या आपकी पर्सनैल्टी में कोई न कोई ऐसी कमी है, जिसे ठीक करने की जरूरत है। लेकिन यह भी सच है कि कोई हर वक्त अपनी आलोचना नहीं सुनना चाहता। ऐसी स्थिति में यह जरूरी है कि आप अपनी आदतों में दूसरों के अच्छे ार्यो की तारीफ करना भी शामिल करें। जरूरत तारीफ की दरअसल, तारीफ का मुख्य उद्देश्य होता है किसी के अच्छे कार्य या पर्सनैल्टी के किसी विशेष गुण को सकारात्मक अर्थो में संबंधित व्यक्ति से व्यक्तिगत रूप में या दूसरों के सामने व्यक्त करना। ऐसा करने से दूसरों की नजरों में उस व्यक्ति विशेष के व्यक्तित्व व कार्यो की अहमियत बढ़ जाती है। मिसाल के तौर पर यदि कोई स्टूडेंट पढ़ाई के साथ-साथ रचन यदि किसी के अच्छे कार्यो की तारीफ करना जानते हैं, तो सभी के चहेते बन सकते हैं। तारीफ करने की कला बता रही हैं डीयू के इंद्रप्रस्थ कॉलेज फॉर वुमेन की प्रिंसिपल डॉ. अरुणा सीतेश : नात्मक गतिविधियों में भी अव्वल हो और उसके कार्यो को पॉजिटिव रूप में उसके सामने या फिर जब वह समूह में हो, तो सम्मानजनक शब्दों के साथ उसकी सराहना की जाए, तो निश्चित रूप से ऐसी प्रशंसा ेभविष्य में बेहतर करने के लिए प्रोत्साहित करेगी। निंदा कम, प्रशंसा ज्यादाआम लोगों के साथ-साथ मनोवैज्ञानिक भी यह मानते हैं कि अपनी तारीफ सुनकर ही अधिकांश लोग उत्साहित होते हैं और निंदा से हतोत्साहित। परीक्षा में अच्छा परफॉर्म न करने वाले किसी स्टूडेंट को यदि लगातार उसकी कमियां ही गिनाई जाती रहें, तो ऐसी स्थिति में हो सकता है कि उसका आत्मविश्वास ही डगमगा जाए। वहीं, यदि उसके किसी खास गुण को तलाश कर प्रशंसा की जाए, तो इसमें कोई दो राय नहीं कि अगली बार वह बेहतर कर दिखाए।तारीफ करें, तो दिल से दुनिया में ऐसे लोगों की कोई कमी नहीं है, जो अपना उल्लू सीधा करने के लिए किसी की भी झूठी प्रशंसा करने लगते हैं। ऐसा करके वे कुछ समय के लिए तो अपना काम निकाल सकते हैं, पर जब इस कथित प्रशंसा की पोल खुलती है, तो उन्हें लज्जित भी होना पड़ता है। प्रशंसा करते समय इन महत्वपूर्ण बातों का ध्यान अवश्य रखें : 4तारीफ करते वक्त ऐसा बिल्कुल न लगे कि आप सामने वाले की चापलूसी कर रहे हैं। 4कुछ लोग एक व्यक्ति की प्रशंसा करने के लिए उसके सामने दूसरे व्यक्ति की निंदा करने लग जाते हैं। ऐसा बिल्कुल न करें। यदि किसी ने अच्छा कार्य किया है, तो पॉजिटिव ढंग से उसकी प्रशंसा करने में बिल्कुल कंजूसी न करें। सामने वाले के कार्य से असंतुष्ट होने पर ऐसा कुछ न कहें, जिससे उसके आत्मसम्मान को ठेस पहुंचे। झूठी तारीफ करने से बाज आएं। अपनी स्वार्थ सिद्घि के लिए किसी की प्रशंसा न करें, यानी तारीफ करें, तो दिल से..।

Have a nice day........................

anil aggarwal..................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Making a Resolution and Making it Work

Making a Resolution and Making it Work

agarbandhu

New Year is the time when most of us feel the need to wipe our slates clean and start anew, all fresh and sparkly. We all want to lose weight, quit smoking, exercise more, save more money, patch up relationships gone sour and other things alike, but anyone who has ever made a resolution can tell you that this is easier said than done.
Few of the study suggests that in order to be successful in our resolutions, we must:
· Be committed to making a change
· Have strategies to tackle problem and obstacles that may arise in the course of fulfilling our resolutions
· Monitor our progress in order to do better
The study also points out the formulating resolutions in the following manners will definitely doom the same:
· Making last minute resolutions as a reaction to New Year’s Eve
· Making resolutions based on what is on your mind or bothering you at the time
· Making absolute resolutions by saying, “I will never do XYZ again.”
On average only about 20% of us keep our New Year's resolutions. Here are few pointers that will help you make your New Year resolutions last all year long:
1. Have a positive attitude about your resolutions. Losing weight need not always be a difficult and hard process. Frame your resolutions as “I will” as opposed to “I will not”
2. Make your resolutions your own; never make them because you think it is what some one else wants of you.
3. Make realistic goals that are within your reach keeping in mind your schedule, finances and other personal factors.
4. Don’t make too many resolutions. If you do, you will only spread yourself too thinly resulting in the failure of all of them. Have 2-3 goals and make sure you properly commit yourself to them.
5. Have specific goals like “I will save 25% of my paycheck” instead of, “I will save money” or, “I will exercise three times a week” instead of, “I will exercise more”. People with specific goals are more likely to reach them than people who have made vague, ambiguous promises to themselves.
6. Break your goal down into several mini-goals and create a timeline for achieving each of them. Crossing these mini-goals off of your list after you are done with them will give you a sense of accomplishment and motivate you further.
7. Let your family and friends know of your resolutions so that they can help you when you’re going off track. They can be your support network who will remind and encourage you.
8. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help if your aim is to overcome a dangerous or difficult problem like excessive smoking, drinking, drug abuse, obesity etc. There are several experts with the right knowledge and experience who can give you the proper tools to help you beat your bad habits.
9. Don’t forget to reward yourself. A periodic pat on the back as you accomplish your resolves will keep you motivated. Acknowledge your achievements, even the small ones. Reaching a goal takes hard work and you should be proud of your efforts.
10. Stay positive about your progress. Keep in mind that setbacks can happen. Don't become discouraged and give up. Instead, recommit. Dust yourself off and get going again.
11. And remember to give it time. Most experts agree that it takes about 21 days to create a habit and six months for it to actually become a part of your daily life. Persistence is the key.
As final words of encouragement to resolution makers, Marlatt has these suggestions: "Take credit for success when you achieve a resolution, but it is a mistake to blame yourself if you fail. Instead, look at the barriers that were in your way. See how you can do better the next time and figure out a better plan to succeed. You do get to try again and can make behavior changes throughout the year, not only at New Year's."
That said good luck!

Bojourn.....................agarbandhu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Baring the body code

Baring the body code

agarbandhu

Pradeep Bose could not figure it out. He possessed the technical expertise for a programming job, but from the last three months he had not got a break. "Three interviewers told me 'I possessed the right qualifications but nobody has confirmed the appointment'," he confided to a friend. The friend, a Communications Manager, did not mince words in telling Pradeep that he was responsible for it. A shocked Pradeep listened to a half-hour lecture on standing erect and looking the interviewer in the eye. "My first instinct was to scoff at it, he says, but I realised I had nothing to lose." Three interviews later, he had a job

The incident highlights the importance of being conscious of the subtleties and nuances of nonverbal or body language. Simple gestures such as the movement of the hand, crossed feet under the table, raised eyebrows send messages can make or mar an impression during an interview. According to experts, 65 to 90 per cent of every conversation is interpreted through body language and people tend to react more to what a person meant than the words actually spoken. Irving Goffman, author of The Presentation of Self in Everyday Lives, argues, in the social arena, people give others the right to perceive what they claim to be, if their roles are legitimised with suitable actions and appearance. Non verbal language plays a critical function in the corporate environment, as people have immediate and direct benefits to reap from assessing people on the basis of impressions gathered from nonverbal cues.

Hence, 'actions and appearance' or verbal and non-verbal language must be in sync with each other. This is, especially, true in an interviewing situation, where a candidate in flat 30 minute or less, must impress the suitability of his candidature on the interviewer. Given the limited time frame, unconsciously or consciously, the interviewer relies heavily on non-verbal gestures to make the final choice. Many times interviewers reject candidate not because the candidate lacks the technical expertise for the job, but due to a certain air or attitude exuded by the candidate. For instance, a candidate who cites his ability to lead a team but to fidgets on being closely questioned by the interviewer is likely to be rejected. Hence, the candidate needs to be conscious of the image he or she is projecting to the interviewer. AssureConsulting.com helps you master the body language game.

HANDSHAKE: Shaking hands is a universal business greeting and it can make or mar the first impression. The handshake should be firm but not bone crushing. Firm handshakes reflect confidence level of the candidate. You should grip the interviewer' hand so that the web of your thumbs meet and apply the same degree of pressure as the interviewer. Most people are comfortable with people who are similar to them, and matching the interviewer's handshake is your first opportunity to create similarities. Prior to meeting the interviewer, shake hands a couple of times with your friends, being sure to perform the motion from the elbow not from the shoulder. Not having sweaty hands is certainly an advantage.

GESTURES: Gestures speak volumes. Some outward expressions of inner feelings are listed below:
I am confident: Common gestures that signal self assurance and poise to the interviewer are:- Flashing a smile at the interviewer,- Brisk walk,- Hands resting lightly to the body and - Erect back.
I am concentrating: In the course of an interview, always let the interviewer complete what he's saying. These gestures indicate you are an interested and attentive listener:- Chin thrust out,- Hands resting on the chin,- Lean forward slightly to catch the interviewer's word.
I am cooperative: If you are applying for a position which require you to function in a team the interviewer will assess you are a team player.- Open hands,- Sitting back,- Eye movements, which encompass everyone in the room when you are answering
I am defensive: Many times the interviewer to test your claims may subject you to intense questioning. Do not adopt a defensive body language by- Crossing arms,- Glancing sideways,- Touching-rubbing nose, and- Rubbing eyes.
I'm nervous: Nervousness can wreck an interview for a candidate. Apart from breathing deeply and taking a few seconds to answer the questions, you can project poise by avoiding the common nervous gestures listed below:- Playing with your hair, clothing or jewelry,- Biting or licking your lips, - Biting your fingernails,- Jiggling money or knees,- Wringing ands,- Chewing on a pen or pencil,- Giggling,- Constantly nodding your head.
I don't want to be here: Sometimes your body language appears to say you'd rather be somewhere else is not going to create a good impression with an interviewer. Try to avoid the following:- Looking at your watch repeatedly,- Looking around the room or past the interviewer's shoulder,- Shifting in your seat,- Tapping your feet,- Drumming your fingers on the desk or on your leg,- Generally staring off into space or failing to make eye contact.

POSTURE: Even if you're motionless, your posture communicates a message. Confident applicants have relaxed, balanced postures. They hold their bodies upright, walk freely with their arms swinging and take determined strides. Less-assured candidates, on the other hand, have rigid or stooped postures, drag or shuffle their feet when walking and take short, choppy strides.

EYES: The eyes communicate more that any other part of the human anatomy. Candidates with eye movements that are relaxed and comfortable yet attentive to the person they are conversing with are seen as more sincere and honest. During the course of the interview maintain eye contact with members of the interview panel. This indicates that a candidate is confident, honest, trustworthy and sincere. Shifty eyes and too much blinking can suggest nervousness and deception.

TONE OF VOICE: The pitch, tone and inflection of voice can reveal more than you intend to the interviewer. Often, the manner in what you say something is more meaningful than what has been said. In an interview, use a natural tone and don't deviate from your normal speaking rate, volume, rhythm, pitch or resonance. Secure applicants have relaxed warm and well-modulated voices that match their feelings, allowing them to appropriately express excitement, enthusiasm and interest during conversations.Conversely, insecure candidates can't control their voice pitch and volume. They have weak, soft, hesitant or tremulous voices, and clear their throats, use "uh" and "um" or other nervous mannerisms excessively. Others mask their insecurity by speaking in complex, involved.

HAND MOVEMENTS: Discrete and moderate hand movements are perfectly acceptable as they can often animate an otherwise dull conversation or be used to emphasise a point. Be wary of using loud and violent hand movements as flailing arms are often seen as a sign of aggression.

SPACE: The relevance of space in interpersonal and social communication has led psychologists conduct formal studies in the area and coining a new term, proxemics. In the social zone, experts advise candidates to maintain a distance between four and 12 feet. Respect the interviewer's personal space by not assuming an overfriendly tone or by backslapping the interviewer even if you've been introduced before. Studies have shown that individuals that do not respect others space are less popular and often rejected.

THE FINAL WORD: In a social situation, like an interview, where the recruiter and the recruited as pitched in the roles of assessor and assessed, Non verbal skills must coordinate with verbal and technical skills. An awareness of body language can help you understand control and even seize the situation to your advantage by conveying an upbeat, enthusiastic image.

Bojourn.......................agarbandhu!!!!!!!!!!!

Success: What is it?

Success: What is it?
agarbandhu

"Any man may commit a mistake, but none but a fool will continue in it."
Success? What is it? What is the way to it? What are the rewards? Do you have a right to succeed? The answers to these questions are in this brief article. It is about success. It is about you and how you can succeed and, in particular, in the profession of exercise physiology.

All too often we hear others saying, "Get in line and wait your turn." This idea is all too common. It isn't the road to success, but rather failure. It turns our hopes into forgotten dreams. So, we must be on the look out for such statements, particularly if they are designed to keep us from realizing success.

Yes, being successful can spoil some people. They begin to think everything revolves around them. They become egotistical and, unfortunately, believe only they have the right answers to every question. The dangers of success have been written about for years, but that is not the purpose of this article.

This article is about "What is success, the way to it, and your right to be successful?" It is about you and how you can become a success. In this article, I am especially concerned with the compelling vision and objectives of the American Society of Exercise Physiologists (ASEP). I take the view that success is just minutes away from fulfillment by joining the Society. I won't pretend that you can't succeed in other organizations -- of course anything is possible. The truth is that I want you to consider membership in the Society of exercise physiologists.

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Through hard work and dedication to ASEP's vision, members of the Society are working hard to achieve the extraordinary. They are working together to design and secure the future for all exercise physiologists. But, before you read any further, stop and tell yourself:
It is O.K. to want your own organization.
It is O.K. to think as an exercise physiologist.
It is O.K. to look out for yourself.
It is O.K. to believe that sports medicine is not exercise physiology.
It is O.K. to recognize the need to professionalize.
It is O.K. to want to succeed as an exercise physiologist. It is O.K. to be an exercise physiologist! You don't have to apologize to anyone. You don't have to feel guilty about what is logical. You have the right to your feelings even though others may tell you that success can't be realized outside of sports medicine.

Success begins, therefore, first with your instincts to follow logical thinking. Then, the best way to succeed is to begin with a reasonable plan for realizing your hopes and expectations. The process is a journey if not an adventure with surprises on every front. It begins with the first step, however small even if your goals should change along the way. At least, take the step and become part of history.

I do not personally think it is necessary to be mean or unethical to be successful. Certainly, many successful people are mean, closed-minded, and unethical. When their views are too one-sided, they set the stage for infighting along the way. The result is unfortunately a lost opportunity to build into existing organizations new ideas and possibilities. For the members who are determined to succeed, the lack of understanding from top down serves to bring them together with greater motivation and desire.

To be successful, to do something that will help others, and to keep a sound mind in the process, you must be motivated to succeed regardless of the consequences. You must be willing to work hard when you have to. Are you willing to take risks? Do you sincerely want the dream of professionalization to become reality? That is, as a member of the Society, have you got the guts to do what it takes to professionalize exercise physiology. I know that you know far more than is necessary to get the job done, but are you ready to concentrate on the professionalization of exercise physiology and put to use all of your insights, ideas, and energy to see it to reality?

If your answer Yes to these questions, then you are ASEP material. Don't ponder that you don't have what it takes. If you have the desire and determination to make a difference, then you have the qualities needed for success. You can stop conforming and fading into the woodwork of non-exercise physiology organizations that have hopelessly handicapped the growth of exercise physiology. In short, you don't have to keep on doing the same passive gestures towards helping exercise physiologists.

Take on the responsiblity, difficulties, and doubts of other people and take control of your future by joining the Society. It is easy to continue "what is...and has been" but successful exercise physiologists must be willing to accept personal responsibility for the success and actions of the people who work in exercise physiology.

Remember: Successful people want to take on professional responsibilities and enjoy making endless decisions to help others.
They are not troubled by insecurities.
They are convinced of their own worth and self-realization.
They know that responsibility is the key to becoming autonomous.
They expose themselves to risk.
They are curious.
They ask questions.
They listen to other people's problems.
They deliver what they promise.
They are ready to seize the opportunity.
They are ready to gamble on their hunch.
They are able to concentrate on what is important.

They have a passion for winning. The problem is that too often even successful people make major mistakes. They ask for less than they could get! Despite the proliferation of benefits available to sports medicine professionals, exercise physiologists have been asking for less professional status than they could get. It would have been better (from the beginning) to have requested for far more than we thought we deserved, and surprisingly we would have gotten more (and, in particular, respect). It is just good common sense to prefer a professional who thinks highly of himself to someone who seems to lack confidence and position.

Also, despite the arguments that exercise physiologists should continue with sports medicine, it no longer means anything. The Society has now put exercise physiologists on the map. ASEP is a constant reafirmation of success. We have, all exercise physiologists have, the proof and leverage to continue surrounding ourselves with motivated professionals to improve the quality of life for all exercise physiology graduates. We owe it to them!

Success, stimulated and made possible through ASEP, has given exercise physiologists a new lease on time and energy used to reshape the profession. In a sense, success is a rebirth with significant in-roads into new responsibilities and possibilities. It is as if the Society is a single entrepreneur arising from obscurity to sudden recognition, self-esteem, and self-confidence to stimulate change. It may be the ultimate turn-around in the liberation of exercise physiologists from an otherwise relatively static and professionally painful existence.

We did it ourselves! How? By expending the energy, working the long hours, and draining "whatever" resources necessary to get the job done. It was about dreaming "what if" -- letting our minds go, freeing the imagination, and indulging fantasies. It was about setting out to doing something and then completing it."

I can't remember who said the following, but it has an interesting ring of truth. "He who is waiting for something to turn up might start with his own shirt sleeves."

Bojourn..........................agarbandhu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!